standards

Now to be perfectly honest before I elaborate here.. I am fully aware and have been told that my standards are considered by most to be "impossible" "outrageous" "unattainable", etcetera etcetera. I see no harm in having wants that reach the sky. It doesn't mean that I expect to get any of them. But who doesn't wish for something wonderful? Expectations and standards vary from person to person.. to what may seem high to some, may seem minor to others, and/or vice versa.
I had a discussion recently with someone very dear to me a little about my "standards" when it comes to men that I date. I think she got the wrong impression... as I was frustrated, and thusly, the words were coming out wrong.
Then comes the vindictive stabs into psychology with songs and lyrics, that really were not necessary. I do not proclaim my life to be without its flaws. It is these very flaws that build me into the person that I am. I am comfortable with my imperfection... this is part of the plauge that is humanity. No one living nor dead was without sin last I noticed.
From a religious standpoint, since it is a Sunday, I will have to say that in my personal beliefs I believe that "The Lord hath already forgiven me from mine sin. I have to come to forgive myself." And if I have done wrong, then it is for my God to judge me upon.
I need to appologize for my lapse in judgement... I shouldn't judge, yet I have fallen victim to that. I need to practice not doing so. However, it is yet another part of the flaws I accept as mine own.
Getting back to the point here, about standards...
I look for some very specific qualities in men:
intelligence
drive
determination
character
ambition
sense of humor
confidence
motivation
charm
comfort
Chemistry

I know that I am missing a few things here at least. But I am at work so I only have a little bit of time.*There is a reason that some were left out- the obvious Trust and Loyalty are a given, but some may decide to poke about into them. So, we will put those aside for the moment.
Without some of these things, no relationship will last. Or at least not ones that I am in. If it is absolutely one thing that I cannot stand it is a man that doesn't want to better themself or their situation. Life is about progession. Who wants to stay where they are for the rest of their life? Unless it is the end of their life? Not many. So many of us are trying to achieve our own happiness. For me, that is very difficult. So I am trying to just live day to day. Some days are harder than others.. but this is my choice. I accept the consequence for making this decision.

Now if I am to be torn down at by having high expectations underlying me, then so be it. I don't see a reason why that is so horrible. So what if I care about a man having a decent job and not settleing or coping out and chosing something easier. Or not having a job means that you are not worthy.. because I believe that someone should want to do something with themself. I may not be at the best part of my life, but I'm trying to progress.. even if it is slowly.. I am determined to move on and work hard so that I can in order to succeed.
There are some personal things that I need to work on of course... but who doesn't? I expect more, because if I am happy, I know that I will give more. Even without the expectation of it. Right now I am not in some ways.. but where I am, it is evident that I will do more. Those people that make me extremely happy will see the best parts and the worst parts of all that entails me. This is life... this is just me... the way that I am.. take it or leave it... some things are all or nothing.
I shall leave you with a quote from one of my favorite movies... which pretty much sums up my philosophy about where I stand with my "standards"

"There are too many mediocre things in life and Love shouldn't be one of them."

Food for thought....